How to Argue Less (in 2 minutes)

Learn a simple, easy strategy that will stop escalation in its tracks, spare your marriage of tons
of unnecessary stress and drama!

This report cuts to the chase. It’s pure, no-fluff, actionable information. Once you read it, you
can apply it within minutes! Includes an easy-to-use 6-point checklist to help you
stay on track.

140 – Scheduling Sex


Sometimes it seems like life is just too busy. You are running around here, there, and everywhere. The thing is that you sense a distance from your spouse and you need to connect. You need to connect emotionally, spiritually, and sexually.

It’s time to get radical in your marriage and make a change!

This week we share all about the Intimacy Lifestyle. That’s right, scheduling sex so you can connect in all areas of your marriage.  The Intimacy Lifestyle has changed the way that we view sex in our marriage, it has caused more equality in terms of initiating sex, and it has helped us to create fireworks that we never used to have.

It’s time for you to commit to your spouse and implement the Intimacy Lifestyle in your marriage.

He Zigs, She Zage: Getting Your Communication on the Same Path Audio Program

Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life by Diana Hoppe M.D.

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  1. Just listened to the latest podcast, and I am alarmed. Global average is 103 – does that mean the wife and I now have to stop until January and wait for the world to catch up?
    hee hee hee.

  2. Joseph (and Jean) says:

    Can you share where you got those stats from? Or were they in the book? They do show that there is something wrong with marriage in America.

  3. I’ve nudged, and hinted, and discussed my spouse doing more initiating so many times. The last thing he would appreciate is the suggestion that once a week be entirely his responsibility to initiate. I have a feeling that if he did agree, it would not change how he initiates or where we have it or spice it up any.

    • Hey J,

      This is absolutely understandable because that was me for so long. I didn’t initiate and at times I still fail miserably. But having the Intimacy Lifestyle has made me realize the importance of initiating and trying new things. We’ve been doing it for 3 years now and the mental shift and physical shift has been profound.

      Here’s the thing though. Your husband has to overcome what is holding him back. Not sure if you know what this is or if he does. There is a root issue that is stopping him from initiating.

      It could be that he tried years ago and was rejected. That may have been enough for him to not want to risk trying any more. The two of you need to sit down and remove the layers of what it is that is holding him back.

      You can do this just between the two of you or bring in a counselor to help facilitate this for you. There is a cost either way and are you both willing to move forward to unearth what the root issue is.

      Love you guys.

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