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Consider yourself warned. Any time that you choose your parents over your spouse you are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Making sure that you have boundaries that will protect you, your spouse, and your marriage are needed.
You love your parents, we love our too, and setting boundaries can be tough. Before we were married and after we were married we had to take time with both sets of parents to let them know our marriage came first. What happens is that once you set up these boundaries you are letting your spouse know that they come first.
This week you will learn how you can set up boundaries in your marriage so that you can experience the passion, romance, and intimacy you desire in your marriage.
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Tony & Alisa are experienced marriage educators, podcasters, and speakers. They specialize in helping time-crunched couples take action and enjoy the sex, love, and commitment they desire in their marriage.
My father told me at a very young age to never let him or my mother dictate what goes on in my marriage. I didn’t understand it at the time but as I grew older I understood the havoc choosing your parents over your spouse would create. I’ve seen countless relationships and some marriages come to ruin because someone chose their parents over their spouse.
Your father is a very wise man Marvin. It’s excellent to hear that you had a positive upbringing when it came to having boundaries set up well before you got married.
Wow, isn’t this all true.
Both of our parents have tried to break us up at various times in our marriage, and over stupid things at that. However we both knew what our spouses came before our parents and stuck it out. Was it always easy? Ya right!
One piece of advise I have for everybody. Never, Ever, Ever move in with either set of parents once you’re married. We sold our home and payed off their mortgage in turn for inheriting the house when they were gone. Well, the trust is still in place but we eventually had to part ways with them. Guess I too ignore the Bible at times
Matthew 19:4-6 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Completely agree with you on moving in with parents. We did this briefly with both sets of parents and it wasn’t good for us or our marriage. Sound advice.