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7 Days of Sex Challenge: Day 2 – Change It Up
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Do something different! God intended us to enjoy sex so make sure you do. Go somewhere, discuss different positions and then do them, make love during the day, keep your eyes open when climaxing, use a flavored lubricant, whipped cream, or anything else that would get you from doing what you have done in the past. It’s time for a change and this week is the perfect time to do so. Go make it happen.
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Day 2: Check.
Great ideas! Just need a healthy husband to participate now!!!
Cheryl and Jerry, PA
Keep trying to DL the podcasts on iTunes and they keep saying 'The network connection timed out'
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Done. With bonus back rubs!
Mary and Michael. Australia
Woke up this morning and took advantage of the fact that the kids were still sleeping.
If its with iTunes I have no idea what that might mean. You can also right click the link above and DL it that way.
From a late night Day 1 to an early morning Day 2. Alisa initiated this morning and it was wonderful. Glad the kiddos didn't wake up early this morning.
Tony & Alisa, CA
This is one advantage to my husband being laid off & kids still in school. We have the house to ourselves!!! Day One went fantastic!
We doubled up on Day 1 because my hubby is away on business today. But, this challenge has certainly changed the dynamics of our phone conversations…as we are in anticipation of day 3! And, I think we are definately missing each other more because of a great Day 1! I'll have to plan an extra-special night for his return tomorrow (I just hope he gets in on time for us to get Day 3 in!)
-D & S (PA)
Managed a quickie this morning before Ian's 48-hour shift. I think we'll have to double up on Wednesday
It was a bit difficult – I swear our kids can smell the pheromones.
Sorry- was too busy to post for Day one. We had a long day and finished it off right.
Our Power went out last night… and kept coming on and going out again allllll night. So we weren't doing a lot of sleeping- and we made the most of it! Day 2- check!
S & E, California!
Was a great night Ready for day 2
Lincoln and Jackie in Texas. Day two-check check.
Cheryl, we are praying for health.
Only 5 days left…
Love the added bonus, Mary!
Way to make the most of the situation, Vicki!
Dawn, it's great that you can already see the impact on your marriage. As for him getting home with enough time tomorrow…there was one night when we did the 60 nights of sex that Tony got home at 11:54pm…we had a lot of laughs as we made those last 6 minutes count.
Nina, way to make it work for the two of you and yes, those kids always seem to know when something is up.
Erica, sounds like it was a great way to spend the night.
Awesome attitude.
Just checking in. We are so on the same page with you! I can tell God was speaking to us! Before I even read Day 2 here my husband came home from work on lunch and we made love during his lunch break (during the daytime) and talked about changing it up with different positions. So it was neat to read this blog afterwards.
So Day One (Check) Day Two (Check)
Jackie, can't wait to see the check check check check check check check at the end of the week!
Faith, it's great to hear that this post fit in so well to your day and that you were able to change it up today. It also sounds like you have some ideas for this week as well.
Day 2, we certainly changed it up. DH came home – I made a “picnic” with edibles for dinner. I felt appreciated today. Connie from Maryland.
David and Dianne from PA
Just listen to the message. Off to play. This is fun. God is soooo good.
I don't think you have us recorded on your map. We are in Arizona. You don't have any listed for Arizona. We've been married 7 years
Phil & Lisa, PA
Two words: Strip poker. I (wife) lost, but does anyone really lose in a game of strip poker between a husband and wife?
Day 2. We just did it under the stars on our deck. I can't believe we've been in this house nearly 6 years and we've never done it on our beautiful deck. Thanks for encouraging us to change it up. It was really nice. We had an owl hooting the whole time. I guess he knows who in Roanoke, Va.
Al and Freida, NY
out in our camper for fun in the “fun finder”!!
I'm posting this while waiting for the kids to get to bed so that “the Plan” can happen tonight! (I know that I won't get back to the computer
tonight!) I've created a steamy video playlist on youtube (i'm going to email it to you to share with the group if anyone would like it!) that is all setup in the bedroom. Candles are glowing, wine is waiting to be uncorked, massage oil is warming….I think you get the idea of “the Plan”. I can hardly wait to give him my undivided attention! Last night was fun! This will be even better! 
– Shawna & Bruce, Alberta Canada
Joanne and Hank Pennsylvania check
Tim and Laurel Day two check
Day 2 was a big hit! We changed it up with a little extra foreplay. I (wife) lit the whole house with candles and then allowed my husband to do different things in each room. In the kitchen, he could only kiss me but had to keep his hands behind his back. Then he could pick one piece of clothing to take off. Only touching (and dancing) in the living room. Then no touching in the hall – until we reached the bedroom. He loved the teasing!=)
Forgot to leave our names – Jamie and Katie from South Carolina
Corbin & Erin from Iowa did the whole tea light candles in the bedroom. Long day of work and we are all tired so it when't quick.
After a hard days work, What fun
Very cool stories below! Our evening wasn't quite as exciting as some of those, but included some nice lotions and massages. Day 2 in the books!
This is a great way to wrap up a hard day's work. Everyone ends up happy!
Quickies are great! Love that you still took the time to set the mood.
Katie, sounds like it was a wonderfully romantic and fun evening. I love the idea of different activities in different rooms.
Fantastic!
That's great!
Shawna, first of all, thank you for the playlist, we are including it as part of Day 4's post. Secondly, WOW! “The Plan” sounds like a sure fire way to sweep him off of his feet. Love how you are romancing your husband.
We smiled big at reading “fun in the 'fun finder'”. Glad to see that you are enjoying yourselves.
Whoooo's having fun in VA? You are and it's great that you did something that you have never done before. That's encouraging to others to try something new.
Definitely sounds like win-win for everyone, no losers in your house tonight!
You are on the map, we have two couples from AZ participating. Thank you for double checking!
Glad to hear that you are having fun and yes God is soooo good. He is doing some amazing things this week in so many marriages.
Thank you for sharing how you felt today. What an awesome feeling…to feel appreciated. Sounds like the 'picnic' was quite satisfying.
Day 2 was again just after midnight. We changed it up by going to the guest bedroom. It felt like we were breaking the rules since it was in a room without a lock and our son was still up.. We laughed and had fun trying to be quiet while incorporating a bit more foreplay. Steve & Brenda from Oregon. .
Oh OK on that list you posted the only “A” state you had was Alaska. Lol
Lotions and massages, sounds like a wonderful evening…and like you said Day 2 is in the books!
Day two is in the books! Jen And Andy ohio
Thanks so much for letting us know…with all of the activity that we have had we haven't updated the summary page but are keeping up with the Google Map. We will do a comprehensive summary at the end of the week as more people are still joining in.
Great job!
Living life on the edge (in a room without a lock)! Sounds like you had a lot of fun between the laughter and trying to be quiet and you even used the guest room.
Well, we didn't get to change it up too much because my husband was exhausted. BUT, normally, it wouldn't have happened at all because he was so tired. Just so glad that we both made the effort
Tara & Dan in CA
Tara, that's what it's all about-making the effort to put each other first. It changes how you think about each other and your marriage. What a great night!
Michael & Jennifer from California…. Almost started in the car to meet the dead line =P Out sight seeing today….Did it at our friends house that we are visiting, just a little bit quieter than usual.
Nice to see that you took “change it up” to heart. You weren't the only ones today who were quiet…a few others were in similar situations.
ok we're coming down long enough to write this ^_^.. nite nite..see'in stars and in Love…..onto day 3
Mark & Karen in AL – Day 2 – two for two.
Sorry this is late, but we finished too late to post. Day 2 was great. We took a walk after dinner and we were able to tlak and connect without the pressures of the day and the family. When we got home, Jennifer told me her yeast infection was getting better and she was up for an attempt. We took it very slow and it was amazing. We are looking forward to day 3!
We were both exhausted after a long day of work, doctor appointments, general Monday-ness, but we still had something to look forward to at the end of the day and we made time to enjoy each other. It's helping our joint prayer life also. 2 days 2 done, working on #3!
Amen ! ! !
Ed & Megan from PA, Got day two in just before the deadline.
John, glad to hear that it's helping your prayer life and giving the two of you something to look forward to when its “just one of those days”.
Can you respond back with where you are from so that I can log your comment? Thanks!
We've done that many times!
We had a late start but we will make up for it….Day 2 done so we will have to make up Day 1! So blessed! The best was my husbands face when I told him, last night what I signed us up for!!! PRICELESS!!!!!!!!!!!!
Corenae and Jeff, Michigan
What an awesome day for the two of you. It's great to hear how you were making the time to really be intimate in different ways.
Keep it up!
Way to go! What an awesome description…see'in stars and in love!
Day two completed. I was reminded why morning sex is the best…after a really long day we finally made it to bed and did it. It was definately a quickie. I am starting to wonder if Amy is enjoying this, I don't think so, it seems like we (or I) am just going thru the motions (which normally doesn't bother me). I really want this week to draw us closer and not just be about the sex. Can you guys pray for us that we will be more than physical?? Thanks!
Married 12 yrs in SC
Did you get a picture? Glad to hear that he was so excited!
We will absolutely be praying that this is more than just a physical experience. I (Alisa) would suggest taking some time to talk through what the two of you are experiencing and feeling. Spend some time being emotionally intimate and find out what is going on.
We were so totally exhausted because of our fun Day 1 events cutting our sleep time in half, that we both unexpectedly passed out before 10pm… and before we could complete our fun.
But we both slept really well which has been eluding us the past couple of months with worries over other things. Those worries I now realize are what have caused our diminishing intimate time together, and neither of us want that to happen!
Not too long ago we were the couple that bragged to eachother that daily sex was a given, it was squeezing in 2-3 times that was the challenge. We both want to be back there so much. We don't want that to end just because finances have fluctuated or we're getting older or that we have 7 kids.
So we missed out on Day 2 but I don't think either of us regretted it overly much because we both feel so great and rested this morning for the first time in a while. Day 3… va va voom.. can't wait for tonight!! Especially since the only one that will be home is the 1 year old.
Stephanee & Ronnie, Texas, married 3 years
(but we have 7 kids between us, 3 full time, 4 frequently. Ages 1-15)
No changing it up for us for day two. Still in Gatlinburg in a cabin with family till this afternoon. It was a late late night but day two was a success.
T & L in Gatlinburg right now, but from the Atlanta GA area.
Awesome post Stephanee. We love that Day 1 was so enjoyable that you two were able to have some of the best sleep in months. That is a huge bonus for you guys. We have learned that sleep is something we need and if we don't get enough of it we are not in the mood for sex.
Even though you've missed Day 2 we are excited to hear about Day 3-7. Sounds like this weeks is already helping you focus on each other again even with the life circumstances. When we focus on our marriage, lift each other up, and take the time to nurture one another it is amazing to see the changes in our marriages.
Keep it up and we look forward to your Day 3 post.
You guys rock! Making this week happen with what you have on your plate is fantastic.
Day two turned out to be a blessing. After spending the day taking a hard look at our finances and sitting down to restructure them, we both were more than stressed and welcomed the chance to forget about it and focus on each other. Afterwards, we both felt much less stressed and our thought processes were clearer. And instead of tossing and turning all night because of the stress, we both slept like babies.
Mary and Adrian Black: CHECK! We made it, we both work night so it was a challenge last night but we dit it
Tough to get this on in but we made it happen. Monday is usually a day full of laundry after the kids go to bed. That wasn't our priority though.
lol from ontario!
Last night was a tough start but in the end it was
wounderful I have a good idea for tonight it's going
to be under the stars.
How funny! I didn't even realize it was two checks on day two. I love it!
Hoping for a check check check check check check check too!
We accomplished day 2 last night–didn't want to get out of bed to post. Lovin' it!
Florida!
Day 2 Kim and Shane Michigan posting 6/8/10 320pm est for day 2. We both worked during the day then had a memorial service to attend an hour away. We ended up in traffic and our hour trip took two and walking in late to the memorial.
Had a nice talk on the way theere. Had dinner out with friends and did not get home until 1120pm. Shane said he would skip the extra work he needed to do for a presentation today and get up early to work on it. So I took advantage. No major changes but enjoyed our time together. We spilled over into Day 3 but just counting it as day 2.
Shane is not a morning person so he made a sacrafice to make day 2 work and I told him this am how much I appreciated it. He said “this is important, I wanted to make it work”. Hoping not to make it so late again tonight. Praying for everyone to grow in communication, intimacy and love. Kim
I guess I'm a little late to the journal party. Hindsight is 20/20 – we should've fasted like you guys did for a few days. After Day 2, I think we both were feeling a bit overwhelmed by the amount of time left in the challenge. We're in for the long haul, though.
I'm looking forward to having a very real and literal “Hump Day” on Wednesday…
Like I (Alisa) have said before, “The laundry will always be there, special moments with your spouse need to take priority”. Glad you were able to make it happen.
Derek, love the play on words for Wednesday. Remember to take each day as it comes and to really talk about what is going on between the two of you. All of the little things really do make a difference when you are trying to do something like this.
What a day the two of you had. It's awesome to hear that Shane was willing to sacrifice the extra sleep so that the two of you could have the time together. Your prayers for everyone are so appreciated as they are much needed.
Glad that you stayed in bed to enjoy each other (that's why we don't the winner for the previous day isn't selected until later). Sounds like the two of you are really having a great time.
Way to work through the challenges and end up in a wonderful place. Tonight sounds very romantic.
It's amazing how you can make it work if it's a priority for both of you-great job!
Wow! You worked through and in so many forms of intimacy yesterday and came out with a clearer perspective-that's FANTASTIC. Plus, it doesn't hurt that you had a great stress releaser!!
Day 2 – Yes! for Jeff and Heather in CT.
Done! It was wonderful:) My hubby is working a 24 hour shift, so we will have to double up on Wednesday:)
We listened to the change it up and the three kinds of sex, we were heading for a quickie but ended up with her being satisfied too. Thanks for the helps we are looking forward to day three.
We both enjoyed our second day.
Glad to hear it…on to Day 3.
AWESOME, glad that helps were beneficial.
Gotta do what you gotta do
Great enthusiasm!
We started a day late due to husband's work schedule. Day 1 started with opening up emotionally, which has been a struggle for us. It lead to great sex and cuddling afterward. Day 2 was hard. All day we looked forward to being together physically and emotionally, however in-law issues caused a huge fight. I went to work out and burn off some of the anger. This helped me take time to realize what the real issue was. I got home, gave him a huge hug, apologized and then told him “I hear make-up sex is very cool”. He giggled and then realized I wasn't kidding
. It was such a great cure for us.
Day three can be put behind us. Had a great time.
Tom & Pat Wisconsin
Day 3 (because we are behind a day) was as awesome as day 1…maybe even better.
Hi again! Thought I would take care of day 2 while I was on and it was GREAT! She surprised me and I really like that. We have two foster kids 11 and 7, mother-in-law (24/7 care) and a live in care giver to help with her, so other rooms will be a challenge…… but hey………we love a challenge!
See ya tomorrow!
Andy and Yvonne from Iowa
Kudos to Yvonne for Taking the Lead. Way to go!!! It is truly a blessing for us guys when this happens in our marriage. I know that I sure do enjoy it.
You two have a lot on your plate at home. This week will be a challenge for sure, but as we have seen over this past year couples find way to make “it” happen. ; )
Keep it up and can’t wait to hear how tomorrow goes.
Tony