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7 Days of Sex Challenge: Day 3 – Celebrate the Quickie
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5 minutes no problem! Make every minute count. With a quickie you can do just that and just about any place you choose. Quickies can be exhilarating, passionate, and amazing we just need to be on the same page with our spouse. Have a quickie this week and enjoy.
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I've been feeling pretty sick today and wasn't sure we were going to make it, but i managed to stop sneezing long enough for it to happen.
Hopefully I feel better tomorrow
Mary and Michael – Australia
We've read a lot of research that shows that an active sex life is good for your immunity…this might just be the cure the doctor ordered.
Finally I post on the day and not the day after….yes that means we did it this morning. Funny it is celebrate the quickie day because thats what it was! I certainly don't mind those at all and neither does Amy. I think the fact that she agreed to the challenge was a clear indication of her love and commitment to me. If we never even moved forward just her saying yes meant so much to me. I am reminding myself to not just give leftovers to Amy but to really focus on her and to be thankful that she is willing to always love me no matter what. Tomorrow I have dinner plans with her and I think my mom will keep our kids overnight so hopefully we both will get some enjoyment out of our time alone and maybe we will be able to change it up tomorrow since we could not do that yesterday!
married 12 yrs from SC
Failed already
. Jeff & I weren't exactly seeng eye to eye on much yesterday! Can we try for 6 out if 7???
Absolutely!!! Thank you for sharing this with all of us Jeanne, but you didn't fail. Taking the step to make sexual intimacy a priority in your marriage takes effort. Alisa and I would have never done 40 out of 60 days if we didn't continue on after I needed a break. Keep going and enjoy the next 5 days.
Fantastic you two. Reading your comment today is what this challenge is about. Focusing on each other. serving each other, and knowing that our spouse loves us for who we are. We are so excited to hear how your date night goes tomorrow. Sounds like a lot of fun and if your mom takes the kids overnight even better. If the kids are gone make it a point to change it up and enjoy something different.
My husband comes home tonight! I have something special to wear!
(but shhhhh…don't tell him!)
-D & S (PA)
We were on vacation and got home late on the 6th, so we started a day late (yesterday). But I figured that should still count! lol. Today we will change it up and then tomorrow we will squeeze in a quickie. I must say, my husband is very excited about this challenge!
Hello from Nevada!
Perfect timing. A quickie for Jackie and Lincoln in Texas!
Perfect day for this since a quickie is all we had time for.
married 6 years from SC
Just had a “nooner” – a noon hour quickie! We're having LOTS of fun! Shawna & Bruce Alberta, Canada
We can all keep it a secret…have fun tonight!
From your post it sounds like you are both excited about the challenge!
Glad to hear it, Jackie. We know from past experience that sometimes it's all you have time for.
The important thing is that you did make time for it and more importantly for each other.
We need prayer!!
Shawna, your enjoyment definitely comes through the posts. How did everything go last night?
It's being said right now!
Lord I pray you bring a spirit of unity to this marriage. Make them one even as You are one. In Jesus name Amen
David from Pa
I am in charge tonight. Planing on having fun.
It was absolutely wonderful!! Hard to describe really! It was just that I hadn't spent that much time on him for a very long time. He appreciated the music that I'd chosen, perfect for the “mood”…
the massage, the one on one time just taking our time being like we used to be so long ago. Pleasing him, pleases me and vice versa – that's for sure! We forget that sometimes, don't we!?
After a tough day with 2 sicks kids, we couldn't get ourselves in the mood! It just didn't seem right that they could need us at any minute and we wouldn't be prepared. Not the first time our boys (ages 1 and 3) have prevented another sibling! But we hope they're on the mend. We call it “team building through adversity” for our marriage.
Theresa and John, MA, married 4 years
B is working a 24 hour shift today, so we will have to double up tomorrow:)
Still sicky, no quicky! What a bummer.
Cheryl and Jerry, PA
Joanne and Hank, Pennsylvania, day 3 done, planning for day four.
Like the quickie, but tonight was more slow and easy. We had more time for candlelight and romance tonight. It was niiiice in Roanoke, VA
Day 3 – Big Success! (The whipped cream was definitely an added bonus!)
Jamie and Katie
Married 7 1/2 years
South Carolina
Day 3 was great! Kids cooperated for a third night in a row … beyond my wildest dreams! Tonight we played a board game called “An Enchanting Evening.” Anyone heard of it? We got it as a pre-wedding gift. Really sets the mood, and the winner gets a wish granted. We were definitely enchanted by each other tonight!
Lisa & Phil, PA
Day 3 complete… bring on day four!
a quickie on the living room couch…haven't done THAT in a long time!!
Allan and Freida from NY
Love it! You guys are changing it up and having fun. Can't wait to see what you have planned for tomorrow.
Sounds like you are on fire! That type of enthusiasm works wonders in a marriage.
Lisa, sounds like a game we might need to check out. How wonderful that you were both enchanted tonight with the added bonus of cooperative kids!
Sounds like a yummy night in your house! I can almost see the big smiles through cyberspace. Thanks for giving everyone another suggestion.
No Quickie, but still an awesome time spent together. South Africa
It's all about going with what works for the two of you on any given night (or day). Candlelight and romance is always a winner!
Great job! It's nice to hear about plans being made.
Praying for healing!
Completely understand, and love how you are making plans!
Theresa hope the boys are better soon. Love that you and John use the term “team building through adversity”-it's a great way to describe so much of parenting.
It's great that the two of you have worked out a schedule for the week. It definitely makes life easier for both of you.
I know somecof these are catch up comments, we are still trying to get the hang of this blog posting thing.
Day1; still in NFP Phase I-so we used our three day practice last week to substitute & shared our emotional intimacy through writing & sharing love letters.
Day2; after getting the 5 younger kids to bed & talking to the 3 teens until 11:30 we were pretty drained, but we are not taking this challenge laying down(ok, most of the time we are laying down), but we shall not be denied and enjoyed an evening rain after the hurricane sirens stopped and made a storm of our own.
Day 3; quickies seem to be so relative to a set time. B said I had 7 minutes tonight, which I think would qualify, but our love making knows no time, I have no idea how long we take? It is not single digits though
Enjoying the challenge so far, but are going to have to be creative as we progress further into Phase II
A & B
Michigan
Fantastic! Congratulations on being the Day 2 winner.
Day three was great, although I was a little tired. I notice the more we get mid-week — the more the “I just wanna sleep” kicks in! Thank goodness tonight was his night to “plan!” haha! I have the greatest husband ever and he doted on me all the time. This challenge has made me realize how much he'll do for me, just because I ask. – Beth (Jeff and Beth – Phoenix, AZ)
We missed Day 2 – lots going on :/ – but were successful today. Even though I a HORRID afternoon when the lies from hell started a feeding frenzy on me – particularly with regards to this part of my life, which then bleeds into the other parts of my life. God is good though and I got some good news a few minutes after I posted somewhere else about the horridness and then a number of friends [who knew nothing about it] spoke my primary love language to me [words of affirmation] at the moments I needed it most. Still not great but better and DH and I talked a bit about it. It'll take a couple days at least to get 'back to normal' but the rebounding is quicker than usual so far.
Anyway – it was good
. Looking forward to tomorrow then DH's bday.
C/M in MO, 13 years
Fantastic you two. So glad that you have gotten us all caught up on how the challenge is going for you. We give you credit doing this and practicing NFP.
Love the storm you two made on Day 2 even after a long day. Keep it up and we look forward to hearing about how it goes.
Did I read that right, you guys have 8 kids? If so, you are rocking!
I agree with the “I just wanna sleep” mode as we move further through the week. Sounds like Jeff made it a point to keep you awake though and good for him. Isn't it amazing when we make our spouse a priority how much love we get from them.
Keep it up you guys. We are loving your comments.
Alisa and I took some time this morning to enjoy our quickie. We received our package from Intentional Moments with a number of romance items we ordered. We decided to roll the dice this morning to add a little something.
These dice are the Playful Bedroom Dice. They're described as “A great way to add creativity and fun to your marriage! Roll the dice to unpredictable foreplay adventures. Comes in a convenient beautiful organza tote bag.”
I, Tony, will have to say that these added some spice to our foreplay. It was just fun to roll the dice and do what was on them. It was fun kissing, touching, and exploring each other. We'll be using these for many years to come.
Looking forward to the next two days and then it's off to our marriage retreat.
Day three ya baby! Jen and andy ohio
I Love being married and loving on each others bodies, ooooOOOOoOOOoo!!!!! Michael and Jennifer California
Day 3, unfortunately, didn't happen here. Hubby was in a foul mood over something going on at work & I could just tell it wasn't happening. I didn't push it & we just spent the evening watching TV together. Hopefully we'll make up for it tomorrow
Tara & Dan in CA
Jennifer wasn't up to the challenge today thanks to the yeast infection (we should not have done it on day two). Anyway, we made up for it by taking a long walk where we talked and shared our dreams of the future. After we go the kids to bed, I rubbed Jennifer's feet while we talked some more. We ended our night in prayer. Praise God for the marriage he has give us.
Yes, practicing NFP is making this challenging enough. Finding the time and space among the schedules of our 8 kids brings it to a new level.
One clarifying point from day2 no hurricanes in MI, they were tornado warning sirens. WOOO, WOOO!
Day three was great, it was late, but it was great! Three days in a row…. and a bigger accomplishment for us is that two of those days have been 'normal' weekday workdays! Those have tended to get in the way ouf our intimacy in the past and we're seeing that we can be busy and involved but still be intimate. Really looking forward to today. Maybe we can mix it up a little today as we'll have some 'no kid' time this afternoon.
Ed & Megan in PA: Day 3 Quickie: Check. I (Megan) have to admit this week is more of a challenge than I had anticipated, but pressing forward.
Day 3 was a success. Last night we got home from spending some time with family. It was a late night, but a good late night. And that is where it ends for us…… after day 3. “Something” showed up today
Well…Day 3….I cam home after a meeting to find my monthly gift had arrived so I improvised and ask him to join me in the shower!!!!! We haven't done that in YEARS! We have four little ones and unless we do it at 11 or later we will have many visitors…..anyways it was AWESOME!!!
C & J, Michigan!
Day 3 – Celebrate the Quickie was very fitting because that's all we really had time for was a quickie. Both of us love a good challenge so we show up eager and excited each day, but I don't think either of us realized how satisfying it would be. I expected to start feeling a little worn out by now, but I think I actually have more energy and my hubby is totally zen. And we haven't argued at all since this started lol.
What is NFP
Natural Family Planning. Here is a great blog post by our friend Dustin with Engaged Marriage on the subject. He and his wife have been practicing in for some time now and his insights are some of the best that I have read. Alisa and I don't practice it, but have learned about it from Dustin.
http://www.engagedmarriage.com/sex-family-plann…
What is NFP…if you don't mind me asking….
Found the answer guess I should have read further first…
day 3 Kim and Shane from Michigan. Nothing official on day 3. day 2 flowed into day 3(late start Monday into early Tues), but nothing after that for day 3. Shane's worked sucked up a lot of time. I thought we could squeeze something in, but when I walked into his office with 2 wine glasses at 1015pm he was still working and had started with a hive type rash(he occasionally gets these and is never in the mood when it occurs). So we chatted for a few minutes then I decided to give him space and not pressure him. No huffing involved, because in the past I had been famous for that. This am I felt some frustration coming over me, but told myself to make sure I was putting him first. Once I did that the morning went better for me(I was trying not to let my frustrations be known). He had to leave early for work, but did tellme he was hoping all would go smooth with his meetings today and work he needs to finish for tomorrow so that we can spend time together. I was so happy to hear that. It is amazing what a positive attitude can do for your whole situation.
BTW saw the posts yesterday regarding prayer and touch times…praying twice daily for all of us and anyone mentioning it in their posts.
Gods blessings
Kim, love that you are focusing on how you can change the situation instead of just reacting to it. It seems like Shane is being very responsive and doing his best to balance you and work.
Thank you for the prayers for everyone participating they are most needed.
Alisa
NeCole,
Sounds like this challenge is making an impact in your marriage. Tony and I have also found that when we make each other a priority, the other stuff doesn't seem to bother us as much. And I agree about the energy level.
Alisa
Corenae,
Way to be creative! Intimacy during this time can take on many forms and finding what works for you so that intimacy can still be a priority is wonderful.
Alisa
The focus on intimacy doesn't have to end. You can still continue to participate by making time for each other daily. Even though you might not be participating in sexual intimacy you can still connect through recreational, physical, emotional and spiritual intimacy. We would love for you to continue to post on what you are doing to make your spouse a priority.
Alisa
Megan,
We've heard from a number of folks that this is more than they had anticipated but remember the ultimate goal is to put your spouse first, to make that connection with them on a daily basis.
Enjoy that 'no kid' time!!! It's true that when we spend some time focusing on the intimacy in our relationships we realize that there are a lot of other things that have been getting in the way. Now that you know that it doesn't have to, think of what you can do to make intimacy a priority.
Thank you for sharing how the two of you have been working through your struggles this week. You have been sharing some great ideas for the rest of us.
Karen & Derek from Colorado completed day 3! It's so fun that along with the intimacy comes just talking and talking about anything and everything. It's been a great week so far.
Tara, way to recognize that something was going on with Dan and just go with it instead of pushing the issue. The important thing is that you did spend time together.
WOW!!!! Sounds like there is some fun going on in California!
Ya Baby! That enthusiasm is great!
Thank you for your honesty about the struggles that you are facing. And thank you for sharing how God is working in your life and in your marriage. It sounds like the two of you are working through this…together!
I hope today is a better day.
Alisa
Karen, you're absolutely right. When we take the time to focus on our relationship so many things improve. Glad to hear that the week is going well for the two of you.
Mary and Adrian from Ontario….CHECK!
Thanks enjoying the ebook already!!
Day three was a quickie, she had worked 10 hours and I 14 yuck tomorrow we have Thursday off so Wed night yum yum day three was success we are in North Carolins
Day 3 was completed in the wee hours of Day 4 but we are counting it anyway. It was a quickie for us because we were both pretty tired.
Steve & Brenda (Oregon)