Half way there and the two of you are doing great. You might be a bit fatigued at this time or you may be flying high. Either way you have accomplished 4 straight days of sex. Right on! For the average couple that is how many times they have sex in one month!
On Day 2 Shawna created a steamy video playlist on YouTube that is for sure to help you finish up the challenge.
Keep it up, you have 3 more days to go.
It’s Hump Day! Tell the ONE Community how Day 4 has gone for the two of you. Your comments are so amazing, keep them coming.
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We are jumping off the wagon, and for good reason. The baby boy that we are adopting came 10 days early and was born on Day 3 of the challenge! We spent all of Tuesday at the hospital, so needless to say, it didn't happen for us. Tomorrow will be spent back at the hospital, and hopefully we'll get to bring him home.
We're looking forward to trying it again down the road, though. We previously made it through 4 days a couple months ago and even that 4 day experience was great.
To everyone else, great job and keep it going! We've loved reading the other comments. And great job Tony and Alisa in everything you're doing this week to organize this. Have fun at the marriage retreat…you're going to have some great stories to share!
Congratulations on your baby boy!
Still feeling pretty sick and had the day off work. But still made intimacy a priority
Well, we missed Day 2, but we did kind of did Day 2 on Day 3….we changed it up a bit last night. Maybe a quickie tonight? we shall see…I'm tired right now and need to get more rest at night. The kids being off of school means they are up later. Does anyone else's kids think that we have to stay up until they stay up? I have a 12 & almost 10 year old…
You're a trooper for making this happen while feeling sick. We hope you start feeling better soon. I, Tony, can remember there were a handful of nights where Alisa or I felt sick when we did our 60 Days of Sex. It's tough, but looking back I'm glad we continued on. Day 4 down. You two only have 3 days left.
So exciting Ron. Glad you and Barb hare doing well and you can come back and take the challenge anytime.
Everyone, check out Ron and Barb's blog, http://hopeexchange.wordpress.com/. This is where they talk about their issues with infertility and adoption. It is a amazing insight to the ups and downs of both. Thanks you two, we will be praying for you and your new baby boy.
Made hubby's welcome home from a business trip a good one! Upon coming home, he found candles, music, rose petals, lingerie, strawberries….
It was good! Wish he could have stayed home from work today!
D & S (PA)
Brianita, Alaska
We made up for my hubby being gone on his 24 hour shift:) We are having a lot of fun! I am looking forward to tonight….
Ron & Barbara,
Congratulations on the newest member of the family!
Thank you for your encouragement and for being a part of the challenge.
Alisa
That is a wonderful welcome home! I can only imagine how appreciated and loved he felt. Great ideas for the rest of us.
Alisa
Ahh, summer break, when bedtime seems to fly out the window…last night was our first night of summer break and Alex was up quite a bit later than normal. I know in our house it requires us to get a bit more creative and yes, the quickie does come in handy.
VERY happy for you two! Congrats!
Day four. Check check check check.
Lincoln and Jackie in Texas
Day 4 complete this morning! I love finding the time and the inclination– even when moments before neither of us thought we were “in the mood.” I'm learning that creating the mood is just a mindset and with intention and space– amazing things can happen.
You've summed this challenge up beautifully…being in the mood is more mental than anything else. Thank you for the insight.
Good for you guys, only three more checks to go.
Sounds like maybe he wasn't so tired after his shift? Glad that you are having fun and have something to look forward to tonight.
With it being winter in South Africa, we had a fire going in the lounge tonight. After the kids went to bed we watched a movie and afterwards we did it by the fireplace.
Congratulations! We're adopting our second! So excited for you!
Day 4 – not so great. The evening started off well with a candlelight picnic of cream soda, chocolate strawberries, and whipped cream under the stars on our back deck. But once things started heating up, we couldn't seem to move on to that final stage. This is a huge frustration for us when it happens because we are young and feel like we should be able to have sex all the time! However, we did have a romantic evening, and we enjoyed having some conversation that didn't involve our toddler! Blah for Day 4 – Jamie and Katie from South Carolina
Michael and Jennifer, California. We are on our way home today and leaving on a late flight so sleeping in this morning and enjoyed ourselves twice =) To think that couples only have sex 4 times a MONTH is WOW… Maybe because we are still 'newly married' (2 1/2 years) and no children we average 6 times a week and on our days off morning and night at times. =)
That's so awesome Ron! You guys have to be pretty excited.
This has been getting difficult with major allergies hitting (I went to be at 9:30 last night). But we're hanging in there and making it a priority.
Joanne and Hank from Pennsylvania. This sex everyday thing is hard. Still hanging in there planning to make it through day seven.
Day 4. A little difficult to get excited tonight. Both of us are kind of tired from staying up later than usual this week
But we did it!
Day four check!! we did it!
That can be really frustrating – especially when one partner is more frustrated, and the other feels more guilty. You get points for playing – and kudos on the picnic.
Today was a bit awkward and a little forced, with no “resolution,” if you get my drift. I felt like we rushed it. Not sure what makes a “quickie” successful. But, my husband gave up seeing the end of the Stanley Cup Playoffs to get Day 4 done, which speaks volumes to me of his love.
Forgot: Phil & Lisa, PA
In front of the fireplace is one of those romantic places many of us enjoy making love. Glad you guys are doing great.
What a wonderful evening. When you say final stage are we talking about climaxing? If so, from a guys point of view it gets tougher as the days go on. I have had this issue both times we have done our challenge and am interested to see what happens over the next 4 times for us.
If it's that you are disconnecting emotionally during this time it might be an opportunity to talk to each other about what is hindering you from getting to the final stage. We have had this happen to us and learned that Alisa really needed to just get everything off her chest before she was ready to make love.
For me, I was wanting and desiring more variety. As we talked about these we now know what is needed so that we are able to both enjoy our love making.
Hope this helps and keep it up. All of us are going to have blah days. Just don't let it turn into 2 or 3 days of blah.
You guys are young and awesome! Oh, to be kid free again would be so nice. Love that you two are way above the average. Keep it up.
I must say this challenge gets easier as the week progresses. It gets easier to make the time every day and I must say that I start looking forward to it!
From Nevada…
Great job Justin. Sickness is a big factor in how we feel and hopefully you get well soon. I've taken some homeopathic allergy tables from our local health store that work great. Glad you are making this a priority this week even with the allergies.
Yes, it starts to get tougher these next couple of days and then before you know it Day 7 is here and you are cheering. Use everything you have to make each night enjoyable for the two of you. Glad you sticking with us through Day 7.
The staying up late is our problem too. For some reason when we do these challenges we don't get to bed before 11:30pm. It makes for a very interesting week. You're doing great.
Fantastic!
That can happen during this week. I remember one time seeing stars as I was trying so hard. I had to let Alisa know that I was cooked and need to just lay there for a couple of minutes. We then took the time to talk about what happened and what our expectations were as we moved forward. Hope this helps and keeps you two going. If you have any questions let us know.
Amen!!! Yes, that is what it is all about. Making our love making intentional so that we do look forward to the time we spend with our spouse and enjoy each others company. Glad you guys are having a great week thus far.
Al and Freida from NY..
Today the mood was a bit somber and we were both tired after attending a community prayer meeting for a young member of our congregation who has Hodgkin's Lymphoma. But at 60 and 64, we have determined to stick with this challenge and we did….we love the encouragement we get from you two and it makes us want to keep going!!
Day 4, check.
Today is a better day than yesterday in some ways. 'Frustrating' with regards to 'resolution' [as someone else put it] but then again, it always is for me. Relationally it was good, but… /sigh/
DH's bday is Thursday so hoping to make up for missing day 2 but we shall see…
CM in MO, 13 years
Day 4 was great. We have been having fun with it and it's led to more romance – which was a surprising side effect. I mean we have a ton of romance – but knowing every night we were going to have sex left the door open for more romance and anticipation. Tonight he made a playlist of my favorite songs on Windows Media and played it while he gave me a massage and then we spent time together. This marriage I have IS extraordinary already – and this just adds to it. – Beth and Jeff M (Phoenix, AZ)
congrats!!
Congratulations! What an awesome blessing for you guys. Enjoy your little one.
Eyes wide open. It finally happened today! I had plans for this morning but Ian got home later than expected and then we spent the entire day grocery shopping. That's what happens when you live so far away from everything. It was well worth the wait.
Day 4 in the bag. Down to the wire, but that is how Alisa and I roll with these challenges. Spouse on top was fun for both of us as we learned something new about when this works for us. We also had some mathematics/angles thrown in for good measure. 3 more days to go!
Mark & Karen from AL — echo many of the comments about Day 4 being more difficult, but we made a decision to fulfill our commitment. On to Day 5!
got day four done last night!
Quickie. First time in many years. I feel like we are on our honeymoon. PTL God is good.
David and Dianne in PA
Married 28 years.
Day Four was both a challenge and a blessing. A challenge because the usual work-week fatigue strikes at the end of the day, but a blessing because we intentionally overcame it and enjoyed each other and time with each other. Some suggestive texting during the day, a few more playful grabs than normal and the thought that, yes, we are doing this for each other and our relationship, and that the investment in each other is paying off so well in increased intimacy, decreased misunderstanding and constant thoughts of each other! On to day FIVE!
Jennifer is still not feeling well, but we are still trying to focus on our marriage. The kids had us busy all day, but after they went to bed Jennifer sat down with me to watch the Stanley Cup. We spent the time talking about what we wanted to do for the summer (Vacation and building a deck) and how we were going to pull it off. We prayed foor our children and our marriage then went to bed as overtime started (I wish I had stayed up 4 more minutes, but Jennifer was tired). We have another busy night tonight. Somehow we will figure out how to spend some time together.
Kent & Jennifer in VA
I'm a morning person and my hubby is a night owl, so to facilitate the Challenge, I made a commitment to stay up later so that we could accomplish each day's goal. I typically read until my husband comes to bed and it may be an hour or so, but last night, when I climbed into bed, there he was ready and waiting! Afterwards, we talked about how neither of us thought we would make it through the whole week as our average before was once a week. We are both so excited to be enjoying this challenge and instead of being two grumpy 45 year olds, we are like giggly teenagers. Now, three more days seem like a piece of cake.
Day 4 done!!! And it was so much fun…it has been a treat to wait with anticipation for the moment we “GET” to be together! Last night we done some great talking too!!
C&J, Michigan
Thank you everyone for the well wishes!
We don't mean the climaxing. We never even got to that point! It was more the actual (hmmm. . . how to put this delicately?) physical part that never got aroused. Awkward but just being honest. Hubby really frustrated, and wife a little disappointed. We seem to be right on emotionally! In fact, we have never gotten along better, and our conversation on the deck was very romantic! It seemed like everything was going along smoothly – until we got to the part of actual love making. Oh well. On to Day 5!
day 4 barely managed to get checked off. between the multiple flights, keeping an eye on the kids, seeing the family etc i'm not sure how we made it happen but we did
It's all about focus! You have made each other a priority and it shows.
Ok, our 4th day was awesome. I called my mom who was supposed to keep the kids so we could go on a date and she had something come up so could not keep them. Amy and I were so disappointed…anyway I called my dad and he said bring them over and they can stay the night!!! We dropped them off at 5 pm and began our date night! Went to one of our fav. restautants. Had a few drinks, an appetizer and decided to share an entree. Yummy, rainbow trout…We had a long dinner, like we were there for 2 hours. So nice to not be rushed. We had tickets to the movie so we left the restaurant and headed to the show. Before we left the restaurant I went to the mens room and sent Amy a really provocative text msg, I knew she would read it before I made it back to the table. When I made it back she was reading the msg and smiling…BTW, I asked her to wear a specific outfit, right down to the lingere. She did, and I knew it so I was distracted in a good way the whole night…So we got to the show and I totally thought we would have the theatre to ourselves (talk about changing it up) but we ended up with about 6 others there with us. I asked Amy if she would still fool around despite the other people and she said yes!!! We were sitting on the back row all by ourselves and nobody around us (in case you were wondering). As soon as the movie began Amy let me know it was OK to make my move. And I did. And she was happy. And so was I. As a matter of fact the beginning of the movie was my favorite…it was great to focus on her and her only. After the show we made it home and lit some candles, turned on Sade (our lovemakin' music)got out the massage oil and picked up where we left off. (a little delayed gratification for me for a change) I totally know we connected in so many ways. We both talked about our dreams during dinner, so much fun. I did tell her that just the fact she agreed to do this challenge meant so much to me, she just smiled. This morning we were able to go for a really long walk together and even go get a bagel and coffee together before my dad dropped the kids off. So, totally awesome date night. Thanks for your prayers and we both are looking forward to finishing the challenge!!
Married 12 yrs from SC
Day 4 Kim and Shane Michigan. I am posting on day 5 because we did not get to day 4 until 1130ish. We celebrated the quickie. Shane had another long day of working on presentations. I initiated by asking “are you up for a quickie” and he said”not yet”. That was my que. So I made my move. It was great. So 3 out of 4 days. I am so excited about this. Since the weather has improved here…will try for starlight tonight. God Bless.
Day 4 fun: I (wife) had an evening meeting until 9 pm last night. I checked my watch with a twinkle in my eye and ran out telling everyone I HAD to get home but not telling why! We're tired but happy and committed. I've made some fun plans to mix it up tonight for Day 5… a different erotically named and shaped food in each of 5 rooms with an “activity” to go along with each. Hee, hee. Gotta rest up.
Heather and Jeff in CT
What a way to make intimacy a priority by leaving a meeting that sounds like it could have gone much longer. And tonight…sounds like it's going to be yummy!
3 out of 4, you guys are having an awesome week. I love that you took the lead and made it happen!
Wow! It sounds like you wrote the movie last night…a true romance. What a way to really make Amy feel special in so many ways. It sounds like you are both receiving so much from each other.
Intimacy occurs on so many levels and the anticipation is definitely part of the fun!
It's great to hear that your willingness to sacrifice some sleep has had such a tremendous impact on your marriage. Giggly teenagers is definitely better than grumpy! Enjoy the next 3 days.
Reading your daily posts is an affirmation that by putting forth the effort to make emotional intimacy a priority everything else will come together. Thank you for participating.
I love the explanation of the challenge and the blessing and how you are seeing the rewards of this challenge. The focus on each other really does create more harmony in all aspects of your relationship.
Now that's awesome to hear…after 28 years feeling like you are on your honeymoon! Thank you for being a part of the challenge.
Only 3 more to go!!
Mark & Karen we have been there and honoring that commitment to each other says a lot! Only 3 more days left
I'm sure it was a very different experience (I know if was for me (Alisa) the first time we tried it). But it also allows you to connect with your spouse in a new way.
More romance is ALWAYS a good thing. Anticipating the time with our spouses just seems to lead to more feelings of love and goodwill and that seems to spill over into so many more relationships.
Love that persevering attitude. This is also a great way for the two of you to connect when things are difficult. We love that you are participating and if you hadn't told anyone your ages I don't think that they would have guessed from your posts!
Hang in there! Remember that many in this community are praying for you and for your marriage. Focus on what the two of you can do and talk through the frustrations. Sometimes just getting it off my (Alisa) chest helps to bring us closer.
Ed & Megan from PA. I'm late getting this posted as yesterday was very busy for both us of with work and me preparing for a conference today. This week has really challenged us to acknowledge how we interact during the course of the day as we're both entrepreneurs. We tend to interact more as business partners on some days rather than husband and wife. We are becoming much more aware of what the other needs to feel that connection. Thanks for the challenge, we really needed this.
Wow!!! We understand your challenge with both of you being entrepreneurs. Over the last 2 years we have made it a point to remember that we are husband and wife first. It's tough, but by doing this it has changed the dynamic of our relationship. We are honored to know that the challenge has helped your marriage.
Keep it up.
We mutually agreed to skip today. We were just too tired; however, we had a nice date night with dinner out.
Steve & Brenda (Oregon)
Day 4 was stressful Diane received word back from a blood screening and it was positive for Lyme's she was in no mood for sex, we talked and she agreed for a quickie, but she got her buttons pushed and wanted me too it was frustrating as I was so exhausted I failed to keep awake for her. we could check off day 4, but with mixed emotions.
we are in North Carolina