Keep it up, you have 2 more days left of the 1st Annual 7 Days of Sex Challenge.
Take some time today to look back over the last 4 days and the passion, romance, and intimacy you have had. It is these times that are so enjoyable and make a difference in our marriages. Making love and making our marriage a priority go hand-and-hand. Today enjoy and relish in each other.
Tell the ONE Community how Day 5 has gone for the two of you. Your comments are so amazing, keep them coming.
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My stepdad took the kids to the park and left us at home. Enough said. This day is off to a great start.
Last night was a great day 4! And a great massage!
-D & S (PA)
Check check check check check for Lincoln and Jackie in Texas.
I love the way the two of you look at each other in the video. (Probably all the time.)
Yesterday you mentioned how most couples only have sex four times a months and one commenter wondered how that could happen. I used to wonder, but then it happened to me. I had my second baby and she had colic so bad (she was up screaming every night from 12-4 or 5 am for months) and then I had postpartum depression + crazy hormones + nursing that all really messed me up. It got so bad that I would start to panic if my husband tried to touch me.
She is just 6 months now.
I have been praying for a way to help myself and what I could to do make it better, and was led to this challenge. I was nervous at first, but took it on and it is going really well! Much (MUCH) better than I thought it would.
Thank you so much for helping me to overcome my obstacles. You are an answer to my (our) prayers.
didn't quite make yesterday. Whatever i got i seemed to have passed on to my husband. So now he feels sick too. So we went to bed early and chatted away. We read some of the comments from other people in the challenge so he could see how its affecting other couple's lives. Fingers crossed he feels better today
Mary and Michael, from Australia
Great day 5 around here! Hubby got off late from work but came home immediately (usually he runs a little late) and lit the candles and turned on the music as soon as he opened the door. We danced and shared about our day and then ended it with some love making. Great challenge! On to Day 6!
Jamie and Katie
South Carolina
Not going to happen for us tonight. Seems there's a bug going around work and I came home with it. We'll have to play catch up tomorrow! My wife seemed a little relieved. It was the first day of having the kids home from school for the summer and she's exhausted too. We'll try again for tomorrow.
Day 5: Lots of fun tonight with food and body parts…We're liking this! We're still sad over the loss of our dog but I think the intimacy has made us feel more together instead of grieving separately.
First day of summer vacation for kids = older kids stay up late = a bit more difficult for us to have the house to ourselves! (and the bedroom gets old after 5 straight days in a row!) Would love advice from anyone with teens!
D & S (PA)
Day 4 didn't work out, but the time was spent talking, which is important too! We are back to business on Day 5 and snuck off for a quickie with 4 kids downstairs! Yee Haw! Shawna & Bruce Alberta Canada
Tried to post day four but it wouldn't work. Figures, we decided mutually that day four was some of the worst sex we've had in years, but hey we laughed so hard it turned out to be a great night! As for day five, things are right again in the world and “no I'm not liking this, I am LOVING IT! Jen and Andy Ohio 10 years
Having our parents take the kids for even a trip to the park is a perfect time for some love making. Glad you two took advantage of the opportunity that was given to you today. Keep it up you are doing great.
Excellent! A massage is one of those relaxing and enjoyable moments we as married couples are fortunate to give and receive.
Jackie – Tears well up in my eyes as I am reading this tonight. I, Tony, can't put into words how touched we are to know that what we believe and do has had such an impact on your marriage. God is at work and we are so happy that you took on this challenge. You two are kicking butt!!! 5 days in a row. Can you believe the power of our loving Father! To heal you and to nurture you and love you so that you could step out in faith and begin to have the intimate marriage you wanted again. I'm still in tears and am just thankful to have the two of you apart of this amazing community.
As for the video, that is us loving on each other. Not all the time, but when you hear us on the podcasts we sit across from each other and those are the looks we give to one another.
So excited for you guys.
Love you.
So glad that you and Michael were able to sit together and read the comments. It is amazing to see how the first 5 days of the challenge has transformed marriages. We are so lucky to have you two on board and we know once you are both feeling well you'll be good to go.
Keep us updated on how the two of you do.
How fun for you two! Love that Jamie, even though getting off from work, made it a point to get home to you. Personally, we love candles and music as it is so soothing and romantic. Day 6 coming very soon.
Totally understand Brian. When we did our 60 Days of Sex there was one particular time when I was sick that I couldn't do anything much less make love. Make sure, if you have the energy, to take some time with Donna and engage emotionally, intellectually, or spiritually today. This is a great opportunity to talk about where you two are as the summer begins. Blessings.
Day five accomplished even though late at night!
Challenge is right! We are a day behind because of a work schedule issue but we still have time to catch up.
I don't think it's going to happen tonight. Life throws us curves, but both DH and I have sick today. It extra stinks b/c it's his birthday. I've been worse than he has but was waiting for him to get home with the stuff I needed to make him some snacks to take to work for some others to take on a road trip [they were specifically requested
]. As soon as they're done [about 10-15m], I'm going to bed. He's watching the bball game [8m left in the 4th] so I'll likely be asleep even before that's over. 
I haven't actually told him we're doing this for a variety of reasons and we've had a couple other challenges I haven't mentioned here but, if we make it 5 of 7, I'll be very happy.
CM in MO, 13 years
Jackie – good for you!
Our DS [#4, now almost 3] spent the first year + needing near constant care [severe failure to thrive issues]. There were months on end where I didn't get more than an hour MAYBE 90m of sleep at a time caring for him. This included 3 hospitalizations and surgery. This part of our life was way off track the whole time [and had been for other reasons, incl a fairly difficult pregnancy, PPD since #3 was born 2 years earlier, pregnant or nursing from Jan 2001-Sept 2008 [inclusive] which really screwed with my drive] and is only in the last 6-8mos truly back in the front of my mind.
I'm so proud of you for not waiting that long to get back on track!
Glad you took the time and talked last night, but then pulled the quickie with the kids downstairs. Way to go!
Food and body parts…Sounds like a lot of fun going on over there. Glad to hear that the time you are spending together this week is bringing you closer together while you both grieve the loss of your dog.
Anyone with teens please comment here about how you are making it happen. We would love to give you some advice, but ours are still young. Hopefully you two find a couple of different places these last couple of days.
At least you two were on the same page with last nights performance, but what is really cool is how you turned it around to a wonderful evening. Do you think this would have happened before the challenge? Personally, I think if we are not serving each other it goes the other way. Kudos again to the two of you for making it memorable.
So glad that you are LOVING IT! Having done this by ourselves, we are loving what you and Andy are bring to the community each and every day.
2 to go!
Al and Freida…we took our time tonight, slow and easy sometimes wins the race, and yes we ARE liking this!!
Late or early you did it! Last night we finally got to our time together at 11pm. It was 11:30pm by the time we were finished. Glad you are making this happen.
You sure do. 2 times in one day and you'll be on track with us. So happy you two are making this happen even with the schedule that Ian has. Blessings to you two.
Thank you for sharing your struggles. We know that this is not easy to do and are encouraged that you feel comfortable doing so in this community. Tony and I have been reading the comments tonight and are so impressed with your desire to serve your husband by not telling him about the challenge. Making the decision to be intimate daily without his knowledge is such a powerful way to put him first. We pray that those other challenges you are working through find a resolution.
Gotta love slow and easy…it comes through your posts just how much you are liking this challenge and the two of you give Tony and I something to look forward to. We'll be celebrating 14 years in October and I hope that we are still going strong at 40 years.
Even though it was suggested earlier in the week, we had our quickie last night. After a busy day at work and needed to go to our house church social we were ready to flop into bed and go to sleep. However we did not want to stop the challenge so we ended up having the quickie before we fell asleep in each others arms. Plus I hid a chocolate under my wife’s pillow which she found at 3 this morning! The chocolate had the following saying on: You simply the Best!
Well we did day 5: round one and two…lol. This is a lot of fun. I realize how lucky I am that we make time for “us” regularly – and am so thankful for the man I married! (Jeff and Beth – Phoenix, AZ)
Day 5 Michael and Jennifer California, we made in time =)
We mutually agreed to take a break for Day 5. Both worn out after multiple late nights and a sick baby. Hubby works late the next two nights, so hoping to finish well. Even if we don't, it's already been a great boost to our marriage and an encouragement to make our time together intentional and not just routine.
Phil & Lisa, PA
David & Dianne from PA
Last night was “pretty nightie, listen to podcast, play romantic board game night”. The Lord has blessed this week partly because I “submitted ” myself to Him and to Dave's desire to do this. It has been better than I expected! Please pray for me that my “natural” sexual desire would appear…I've had very little in our 28 years of marriage and it has been a frustration for both of us. Thanks,,,Dianne
We thought day 5 was our demise but after an hour or so of foreplay Diane was checking out sleepy time taking over, but it was okay I had been trying to be Christ like and initiate life and strength to her as we worked through the Lyme issue during the day, I had responded badly early, but really focused on her in the afternoon, bought her some roses and shrimp from the store on a take kid somewhere run. so as we drifted off we were happy to have made day 4 and we had intimacy just no climax for day 5, then she went to turn off a light and came back and said “i need you” it was on and I wooed her for another hour plus to bring her satisfaction. Wow I was amazed. Long story to get to the check day 5 whaaa whooo.
Once again the children and packing for the weekend trip kept us busy. However, Jennifer is feeling much better now and so all I have to say is that we checked the box in a good way on day 5. We are most definitely liking this and we hope we can keep up the “intentional love” we are exercising this week.
Day 4 for us…and we had another great night. I texted him earlier in the day telling him I “needed Joe time. He responded with encouraging words…”boys go down early tonight so you can have my full attention”. I am really opening up to him after 15 years and he is cautiously responding to it. I am encouraged by this challenge. I'm seeing that I really want him, need him, love him. We ended the night with a movie, cuddling, great conversation and then “FIREWORKS”.
Ed & Megan in PA
I was actually looking forward to last night after being gone at a seminar all day long. Ed made a fire in our fire pit to kick off our night. Again a very nice end to a great evening.
Last night was fun for us, after a couple of not-so-romantic one liners from Tony I was wondering where the romance was. We laughed a bit and then he tried again. Much more successful this time…as the challenge winds down we realize just how much of a boost this is to our marriage every year that we do it.
WOW!!!!!!!!!!! Everyday keeps getting better…..I made a nice spot out on the deck and we made love under the stars!!!!! We have never done that and it was amazing!!!! A very successful day 5
Jeff and Corenae, Michigan
Day 5 creativity–sometimes it's the setup of the mood and sometimes it's finding a way to work around the kids. We managed to talk our kids into taking the dog for a walk after dinner and then took advantage of having the house to ourselves but made it a quickie since we didn't know how long they'd be gone. We still can't believe how easy it's been to make love every day! We are now both starting to wonder how long we can extend daily lovemaking beyond the Challenge. It just seems so natural to continue.
Mission accomplished! We've so enjoyed the journey– our bedroom feel sexier and sacred. Can't wait to finish out the week!
No more teens for us, but how about a walk to some secluded place like a park or into the woods somewhere . Or send the kids out to the movies.
We completed Day 5! We spent the entire evening together including dinner and a concert. Had an amazing night in bed too.
Brenda & Steve (Oregon)
We had a long day today. With the kids out of school for the summer and all of their activities it just seems like Amy is too busy to focus on me. We went to a swim meet for our kids and did not get home until around 9pm. By the time they all were in bed it was 10. We made it to bed at 10:30. Amy was not in the mood. She asked me if I was tired of having sex. I thought for a little while and was wondering if I should push the issue. I did. She very reluctantly agreed. It was a quickie. Afterwards I thought to myself I should have just left her alone. She made the comment that this whole challenge was ridiculous and I could tell she was not happy. I don't even think she said goodnight. So much for building more intimacy…I laid there and was frustrated. I began to pray and ask God to just help me. Anyway, this morning I got up early and went to the mens prayer breakfast and then over to my dads to help with some stuff in his yard. Amy came over with the children later and we all hung out. Amy was invited to go out to dinner with her friends tonight and then go to a movie. I told her she should. I did think about asking for a quickie in the shower before she left but decided that would not be a good idea at all. SO here is what I did instead: I went to the theatre and bought her ticket for her. I went to Walmart and bought a giftbag, her favorite candy and a i love you card. I went to the store and got her a dozen roses in a vase and then I drove over to the restaurant and spoke with the manager. I bought a gift card for the restaurant and went ahead and instructed the manager to give Amy the roses, giftbag, and giftcard along with her favorite cocktail when she arrives at the restaurant. The manager asked what I did wrong, I told hom nothing, I just love my wife…So here I am. And I think the challenge is over for us after her comments last night. The whole week other than the movie night has not been what I wanted. Four quickies. One meaningful lovemaking session. And I know she did not enjoy the quickies. I dont know where to go from here…I think I will be apprehensive to even try and initiate for a while. BTW she never initiated the whole time. Is it possible that this challenge has done harm?? Maybe it is just some spiritual warfare, I really have been praying for everyone and really praying for me and Amy to grow closer with each other and God. Well, I will just think positive, maybe after my expression of love with the flowers, gift card, etc…she might wake me up tonight and make love to me. Oh, i forgot to tell you I went and bought her favorite coffee this morning and had an i love you card with a long note from me beside it…anybody have any thoughts or experiencing their spouse feeling like Amy has expressed??
Becky, what a great way to let Joe you desired him! You have had such a great experience this week and it's awesome to hear what is going on in your marriage.
Dianne, as you continue to make intimacy a priority in your marriage you will find that desire. It has to be there or else you wouldn't have made it this far, this week. You marriage will continue to be blessed as a result of this week.
Lord I pray you minister to Amy and Tripp. Thank you for the love you have given to Tripp for Amy. I pray you bring them together. Help them to enjoy intimate times together the way You want them to. Fill their marriage with your joy and peace. Bless them real good. I pray in Jesus name Amen
We made it through day 5 but are late posting. We overslept today. This seven day sex is exhausting.
Joanne and Hank in Pennsylvania.
Finished a wonderful day 4 and looking forward to the weekend. It is such nice way looking forward to the end of day. Tom & Pat
Glad you used Day 3 suggestion today to enjoy each other and then to cuddle afterwards is a plus for the two of you. Chocolate under the pillow is bonus and a great idea. I'm going to have to use that one on Alisa one night. Thanks.
You guys are amazing! We just love your post and blessed to have been able to be apart of your lives this week. Almost there.
Sweet!!!!
Even though you took a well deserved break you got what we were after for everyone this week. To make our intimacy intentional so that we are engaging each other each and every day. Great job you guys. Glad this has been such an encouraging week.
Wow!!!! It's absolutely amazing what you guys have gone through the last couple of days. We are proud of both of you for really making this a special time. Keep it up were almost done.
Two thumbs up!!! Great job about working through this week. We know it didn't go the way you had planned, but you were making intimacy a priority and look where you are today. Very proud of you guys.
Love the fire pit. We were actually talking about getting one for our place and with your post it is something we need to get soon.
You guys rock!!! Under the stars is a fantastic and glorious place to enjoy each other. Kudos to you two.
Love that you talked the kids to walk the dog and got a quickie in while they were away. If you two are up for extending the challenge go for it. Make sure you keep us posted as we would love to encourage you in any way we can. Awesome job you two!
Amen! That's what our bedrooms are about. A place for us as married couples to be ONE. We make it a point to try and keep everything else out so that it's only about us. Great job you two.
Tripp – We are lifting you and Amy up to the Lord. Please don't think that this has hurt your marriage if anything we believe it has revealed that time spent in emotional, intellectual, spiritual, recreation, and financial intimacy are where you need to be spending your time.
From reading your post we feel that there is something going on between you two that needs to be talked about openly so that you two are able to come together sexually. We have been here before so we are talking from experience. It's time for you two to get a sitter and talk freely with one another about what issues, if any, are stopping you from being as physically intimate as you desire.
Alisa and I talk about this as taking off our masks. Letting our emotions and feelings our so that we can be truly loved by our spouse. It's tough to do this at times and I encourage you to make a special time for you and Amy.
Lets keep this conversation going as we want to see your marriage prosper. Please don't hesitate to email me at asktony@onextraordinarymarriage.com.
Love you guys and lifting you up to the Lord.
Nothing wrong with oversleeping. Yes it is a bit tiring, but you are almost there. Keep it up.
I agree! It is a great way to end the day knowing you are going to spend quality time with your spouse. Glad you two are having a great time this week.
Oh wow. I can't even imagine! So glad you are doing better! Wow.
I am learning more and more that nursing (and pregnancy) really does mess up your drive.
Praying for you guys! Hope it is going better!
Sounds like it was quite an evening both in and out of bed. What a great date night.