How does one acquire the “World’s Best Husband” trophy? Doesn’t the criteria differ from couple to couple? You may be a sensitive IT programmer who drives your Toyota Prius straight home after work sharing stories of the events of every day. You tend to the yard on the weekends and plan for special occasions. Or you may cruise home on your Harley, giving your wife a big smooch with Chinese take-out, and a movie from Red Box in hand.
With those being two extremes, I think there are still a few things that embody an international language of love. Some actions that can carry a marriage of any type through the depths of any valley. There are simple rules to follow to keep the respect, which, in turn, keeps the love alive. What you did to get her is what you need to do to keep her. I’m going to say that one more time.
Keep Doing What You Did
If you brought her flowers once a week when you dated, keep bringing her flowers weekly. If you cooked dinner for her every Friday night, cook dinner with her once a week. It’s quite simple, really. She fell in love with you for you, the things you do and the things you say. If you tell her she’s beautiful once a day, look into her eyes every day and tell her she’s beautiful. It’s the things you start but don’t finish that push your wife away.
Keep the Daily Reunion Fresh
Have you ever seen the opening sequence to the “The Simpsons?” Where the end of each intro differs from episode to episode? Marge, Homer, Bart, Lisa and Maggie get mixed up in a unique way to somehow end up on the couch together every time the show airs, keeping it fresh from the get-go. If you can incorporate this type of diversification in your everyday life upon coming home, you’ll be that much closer to being the best husband ever. Some ideas?
- Stop for a moment and actually look into her eyes with that look that asks her to kiss you; with eyes that say you’re happy to be home in the place you feel safest and happiest
- Bring a single flower every day for a week
- Come in singing
- Grab her hand and twirl her around
- Smack her butt and run
You could assign opposite weeks to entertain each other upon coming home. One day you may end up with the greatest gift a man could spontaneously receive from the best wife ever.
Keep Laughing with Her and at Her
One of the reasons you married her is because she makes you laugh. If you remember to listen to her, she is still really funny. Once you stop laughing with (and at) her, it means you stop noticing her. Then she begins to fade away and stops being funny. Laughter is good for the soul so keep laughing and continue to make her laugh.
Take the “Big Risk” Off the Table
What is the big risk? The “D” word, Divorce. When you take it off the table and make it not an option, that’s when the real growth begins. The minute you decide to actually take this woman as a partner for life is the minute you free yourself and your beautiful teammate from the chance of ever leaving each other. You can each be real and confident that you can get through the hard times.
Be the best husband ever and lead the way. She’ll give you what you want in return just watch the magic!