The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Framework
Find the Pillar That Needs Attention and Start Rebuilding Your Marriage
Feeling disconnected and not sure where to begin? The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® helps you identify what needs attention so you can take the next step toward a stronger, more connected marriage.
Marriage shouldn’t feel like two people surviving under the same roof.
Maybe you still love each other, but something feels off.
- You keep having the same argument.
- You avoid the conversations that matter.
- You feel more like roommates than husband and wife.
- You want closeness again, but you don’t know where to begin.
The problem isn’t that your marriage is hopeless.
It may be that one or more of your pillars needs attention.
We’re Tony and Alisa DiLorenzo
We’ve helped couples around the world rebuild closeness and connection, communicate with more clarity, and create extraordinary marriages through The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework.
For more than a decade, we’ve taught couples that sex, love, and commitment are not just nice ideas… They are the glue that helps a marriage thrive.
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Authors of The 6 Pillars of Intimacy®
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Christian marriage framework
Choose the Next Step for Your Marriage
Start Rebuilding with the Book
Discover the six areas of intimacy that shape a strong marriage and learn how to create deeper closeness and connection one pillar at a time.
Get Personal Guidance for Your Marriage
Work with Alisa, one of the top Christian marriage coaches to identify what is really happening in your marriage, create a practical plan, and start rebuilding confidence, connection, and intimacy.
Become a 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coach
Learn the framework that equips Christian leaders to guide couples from conflict and disconnection toward clarity, intentionality, and deeper intimacy.
The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Give Your Marriage a Blueprint
A strong marriage is built through six forms of intimacy:
Emotional intimacy: feeling safe and understood
Physical intimacy: comfort, affection, and non-sexual touch
Financial intimacy: trust and teamwork around money
Spiritual intimacy: shared faith, values, and purpose
Recreational intimacy: friendship, fun, and shared experiences
Sexual intimacy: desire, connection, and physical oneness
When one pillar has cracks, the whole marriage can feel unstable.
When you know which pillar needs attention, you finally know where to begin.
Your Next Step Is Simple
1. Identify where you are
Are you looking for personal marriage help, a self-guided starting point, or training to help other couples?
2. Choose your path
Apply for coaching, get the book, or book a discovery call for certification.
3. Start building stronger intimacy
Use The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® framework to create clarity, connection, and practical next steps.
Real Stories From Real People
Readers Starting With The Book
A must for all couples!
"I am so thankful I took the time to read this book as it truly helped me understand my role in our marriage much better than I ever realized. No one ever talked to me about marriage or what it could be like before I got married.
I am so thankful for this book."
Helped a lot!
"I was really struggling with anxiety in our marriage. I knew something was killing me inside but just couldn't figure out what. This book gave a lot of clarity on why I was feeling so many things. I have have been making small steps to be more present. It hasn't been long but I can see the small changes in how we interact."
Intimacy Foundations Revealed!
"This book offers a profound framework for strengthening your marriage through the "6 Pillars of Intimacy." Each pillar gives practical insights and strategies to enhance connection, trust, and communication with your partner. It's an invaluable guide for couples looking to deepen their bond and create a truly extraordinary relationship."
Couples Getting Guided Help
We needed to talk about things we haven’t been able to talk about.
“Often couples know something is wrong but don't know how to address it safely. When guided through the right pillars, difficult topics can finally be discussed without the conversation falling apart.”
For the first time, we felt like we had a strategy.
“We had talked about our problems for years but never knew where to start. The framework helped us understand what was really happening and what to focus on first. It gave us direction.”
We finally had a way to talk about what was really happening.
“Before coaching, we kept having the same argument and nothing changed. Once we started using the pillars, the conversation became calmer and clearer. We weren't trying to win anymore, we shifted our focus to rebuilding.”
Certified Coaching Program
This is the start.
“I had been praying about how to influence marriages for a long time. When I heard, ‘We’re training coaches,’ I knew...this is the start.”
We wanted to give couples something better.
“We’ve seen how much hurt and bad advice couples are carrying. We want to be part of giving them something better.”
The framework gives us a way to help others.
“We started living out The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® in our own marriage. Then we saw the need in our church and realized we could use it to help other couples.”
Feel Called to Help Other Couples Rebuild?
The 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Certified Coaching Program equips Christian leaders, coaches, pastors, mentors, and marriage ministry volunteers with a practical framework for guiding couples through stuck conversations without blame.
Not Sure Where to Start?
You do not have to figure it all out today.
A stronger marriage begins by understanding which area needs the most attention. Take the free 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Quiz and discover where to begin rebuilding connection.
Take the Free 6 Pillars of Intimacy® Quiz
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